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提问人的LILCHICK
早泄PE-帮助！最近已婚和痛苦由PE？我开始不关心阿波
任何事情了。我为什么要？我不喜欢他在乎我。我丈夫和我只是有一个关于我们的性生活的斗争。我性受挫，要求他求医。我相信他从PE遭受他不认为这是一个问题。经常耸肩而过笑而过，不承认我，当我试图谈论它。我感觉愤怒，感觉越来越遥远。他说，我不应该把它全部在他等他不觉得他需要看医生。他告诉我，一个人不应该问他们的合作伙伴。 That its not the end of the world??? That it shouldn't be THAT important. We've been together for about 2.5 years and married since last July. I thought it was just stress at first, with a new house, planning a wedding etc...but now there is no excuse. I feel if we don't get help soon we will be in trouble. I love him so much but frustrated that we cannot have a healthy sex life. I miss the closeness. I tried skipping foreplay and get right to intercourse but don't have time to even break a sweat. I know its not all about me here but if someone loves you so much to marry you i think you owe it to that person to at least talk to a doctor. I don't think its selfish. I just want to feel that connection again. I hope he does too. He does use hand stimulation but not all the time leaving me crying in bed, without even realizing that he is causing the way that I am feeling. He says he doesnt' intend to hurt me but I tell him that even though he doesn't intend to, that he is. He are planning to have a family soon but how can we? We don't have intercourse for more than 30 secs and at this point i need our relationship to get stronger before kids get into the mix. I don't want to feel resentful but I am heading in that direction. BTW We are both in our early 30s
回答
嗨LILCHICK，
你的挫折感来通过非常清楚。这是一个困难的情况下，通过它出现一个片面的事实变得更加困难。你的丈夫并没有看到一个问题，而不是出现回应您的后顾之忧，这一事实化合物的问题。
该怎么办？根据你所描述什么我假设交往一直这样（超过30秒不再）。我最初的想法是由你说的是他拒绝寻求帮助排除。这减少了选择，但你可能会想尝试这个建议。它把你的责任的举证责任，但它可能是值得一去。
不要放弃前戏。也许利用这个机会告诉他你对他有正面感觉，他的身体，甚至他的身体的各个部分。暂缓批评或判断自己的性能力，而是专注于自己喜欢的事。请记住，你在这名男子摆在首位嫁给他看见就好了。也许买了几个信息性书籍和在卧室里有这些左右。你可以利用这个机会来讨论一些技巧，说你想尝试，并在一些事情你都发现连笑什么 - 嗯，贻笑大方。
这将是一个过程的东西。它发生，我认为你的男人可能有一定的信念性，或有过不好的经验与性别，或已被更多用于色情，这可能是问题的根源。这些都是我的一部分漫天要价，而且很难梳理这些出不正确的治疗环境，但更多的他信任你，他在压力下感觉少说也只是一个机会，他可能会开始披露（假定一个或其他的这些是一个问题）。
让我转交给你一会儿。你的挫折感是专注于你的性生活，但可以在问题比这更深？我不想把想法在你的心中，但你的电子邮件的语气听起来生气，甚至可能郁闷。我只是想知道，如果在你的性生活不快象征其他损失，你可以不承认自己？